deird1 | (Reply)

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Speaking as someone who's lived through years of depression, the best bit of advice I can give is "acknowledge your feelings, accept them, and let them flow on" - but be aware you don't necessarily have to let them influence your behaviour. But yeah, take time to sit and sulk about the things you've lost. Take the time to mourn for your lifestyle, and the changes you have to make in it.

Yes, it's selfish and self-centred and all the rest of it. But I think allowing ourselves a bit of time to acknowledge our selfish feelings, and express them a bit, and admit that yes, there is a part of us which wants to stamp its feet and scream and yell and rail at the heavens about the unfairness of it all (we were being *good*, how dare this bad thing happen to us!) is actually a good thing. Give your inner toddler a hug and a cuddle, and agree with them - yes, it is unfair. Yes, it is horrible. But like genuine toddlers, part of what we have to learn is how to accept that unfair, horrible things happen, and we have very little control over them.