Maybe she thinks a woman actually wanting to have sex is despicable conduct?

That is exactly what I thought - clearly a very mixed up person. Especially considering

They've also bookmarked my story, with tags of "despicable conduct"

I do find myself wondering why they have bookmarked it... and wondering if any of us can be bothered going and bookmarking their stuff with the same tag, as non-con is certainly about despicable conduct!

Pretty sure having sex with someone doesn't mean you're married to them.

Unless you think you are a Tolkien elf who still follows the Lore and Custom of the Eldar!!