Erm. I hesitate to point out that Drew Goddard is on record as saying that he feels that (Spike was massaging the truth to get Buffy to kill him) is a reasonable interpretation of that scene. He didn't go so far as to say he felt it was the one and only correct interpretation of the scene, nor am I saying that I necessarily hold that interpretation myself, but I'm a little taken aback by the idea that we have to condemn the writer of the episode as a fluffy-bunny woobie Spike fan for allowing for the possibility.